When You Feel Disconnected From Yourself

Bobbie Deno
Aug 12
3 min read

Updated: Aug 19

And how to lovingly find your way back home…

You know that feeling when you look in the mirror and think, “Where did I go?”

You’re going through the motions… doing the things… maybe even checking all the “right” boxes, yet something feels off. Muted. Fuzzy. Fucked up…Like you’re living just a few inches to the left of your own life.

That’s the ache of disconnection.

It doesn’t always come with a big, dramatic crash. Sometimes, it sneaks in softly… overbooked calendars, too many voices in your head that aren’t yours, saying yes when your soul whispered no, scrolling instead of sitting with yourself.

And before you know it… you’re homesick for you.

First, let’s take a breath…

Because feeling disconnected doesn’t mean you’ve failed. It means you’re human. It means you’ve been busy surviving. It means life has been life-ing. And now… your inner artist is tapping you gently (or loudly) on the shoulder asking, “Can we come home now?”

So let’s not shame ourselves for drifting.

Let’s just return.

Signs You Might Be Disconnected From Yourself:

You feel numb or foggy…tuned out…even when things are “fine”
You’re constantly seeking outside validation or advice
Your creativity feels blocked or forced
You feel emotionally reactive, or emotionally flat
You avoid stillness because it’s uncomfortable
You’re more focused on being liked than being you

Sound familiar? Yeah… me too. Too often.

Here’s What I Know:

You can’t reconnect to yourself by forcing it.

But you can return with love, one sacred moment at a time.

Ways to Come Back Home to You:

1. Get Quiet Enough to Hear Yourself

Even five minutes of silence… phone off, eyes closed, hand on heart. No agenda, no performance. Just listening.

Ask, “How are you, love?”

Then wait. You might be surprised what answers show up.

2. Move Your Body with No Plan

Not to burn calories or to “be good”—but to feel what’s real. Dance like a weirdo. Stretch in bed. Walk barefoot in the grass. Your body remembers who you are when your brain forgets.

3. Create Something… Anything

Write a messy poem. Paint with your fingers. Make a soup with whatever’s in your fridge. Creativity is your soul’s language—it doesn’t need to be pretty. It just needs to be you.

4. Say the Thing You’re Not Saying

To a friend. In your journal. In the mirror. Unspoken truth is a wall between you and your inner world. Speak it. Feel the cracks start to soften.

5. Stop Asking Everyone Else What They Think

And ask you. What do you want? What feels aligned? What makes your body say yes? Other people’s opinions are data—not direction. Reconnection is about trusting yourself again.