Stop Taking Advice from People Living Lives You Don’t Want to Live

Okay… let’s have a come-to-Jesus moment about something.

There’s a quote that changed my  life:

 “Don’t take advice from someone not living a life you want to live.”

Seriously!!!

Can we talk about how revolutionary this is? And how rarely we actually apply it?

I used to be the queen of course collecting. If there was a program, workshop, or guru promising to fix my life, I was first in line with my credit card. I’ve got a virtual library that could rival Amazon, filled with courses and solutions I never implemented.

Some of it came from my genuine love of learning (I’m a nerd), but most of it came from believing that the answer to my happiness was somewhere “out there.” That if I just found the right system, the right diet, the right meditation practice, the right life coach, I’d finally feel worthy, loved, peaceful, and happy.

Core truth: I was looking for magic in all the wrong places.

Here’s the “real” truth… I’m not some famous guru with millions of followers. I’m a woman in rural Alberta, Canada, with mud on my boots and big dreams of helping other women who are stuck in the same cycle I was.

You know that cycle, don’t you? Thinking the next course, the next diet, the next pair of shoes, the next something is going to be the thing that finally makes everything okay.

Meanwhile, you’re surrounded by incredible women who can’t see their own beauty because they’re too busy trying to fit into someone else’s idea of what they should be. They’re stuck on being a certain size, looking a certain way, being a certain age, doing what they’ve been told they “should” do.

Sound familiar?

Here’s what I’ve learned from my own beautiful mess of a journey: the answers aren’t out there…they’re in “you”. They always have been.

I’ve been where you are – feeling disconnected, overwhelmed, and like everyone else has it figured out except you. I still visit that place sometimes (because, you know, life), but the visits get shorter because I’ve learned to trust the voice that matters most.

Mine. 

You don’t need to be fixed. You need to remember who you are underneath all the noise.

Ready to Soul Dive together? 

Because the only guru you need is the one looking back at you in the mirror.